I write this blog, as I sit in a broken down car – outside a random police station about 20km away from home. I’m at least 5 hours late in my personal schedule for today, and I don’t see myself getting back home in at least an hour.
I have been having random fun conversations with the police and my driver, making it one of the only normal conversations I had today. But oddly enough, one of the topics we have been discussing about is very close to heart. It is about homesickness.
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Let’s say this story began around 2:30 this afternoon, when I had to – very slyly, almost kick my very reluctant brother out of my home to send him off to hostel.
As we set out on the long 2 hour journey towards the school, battling heavy Bangalore traffic along with some crazy rain and wind, I thought of the times 5 years ago, when I felt similar feelings as my little brother was now feeling going towards hostel. As my brother slept after whining for a bit, I enjoyed the sights around me – planning the rest of the day. I was to go for a little bit of shopping at commercial, eat some Mango delicacies from a Mango fest that was happening at Indira Nagar and figure out a lot of things in line for the next week.
Well, the series of unfortunate events began right after that. The ‘hesitant to enter hostel’ brother I had left outside the hostel, decided to vanish.
After running around and looking for a bit, we found him almost a km away, chilling on the road.
This led to multiple conversations with random people of the school, and the time I had to spend at the school stretching from 5 mins to 5 hours.
5 hours later, as I got a vehicle back home, finally relaxing with some music in the long journey back home after a long day, I get informed that the cab’s wheel had gotten punctured – ending up in front of the police station I’m sitting on front of.
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6 years back, when I entered the college hostel for the first time, I was extremely excited to be joining hostel. Life without parents, life which was run by myself – independence – was something I was looking forward to. Early morning, I entered the hostel with all my luggage – for setting up the room I was going to be using for the next 5 years of my life.
I still remember the professor talking about the course and giving us an insight into how life would be as an architecture student. “Some of you would be having some kind of homesickness – help each other out or talk to people if you can’t handle it”, she told the class. I cracked a joke about this with the stranger who was sitting next to me.
But that’s where the issue began.
For a long time after that, the stranger never stopped being one. Nobody at my hostel stopped being a stranger. However friendly my room-mates or hostel mates were, I couldn’t treat them as a friend. According to me, my friends were far away – like my family and I was never going to be as happy as I was with them. I couldn’t deal with being away from them.
I couldn’t understand why I felt this way – I couldn’t accept the fact that I was homesick.
And since I was in denial about homesickness, I didn’t know whom to talk about this new depression that had taken over me. This was attached with a couple of other symptoms – lack of an appetite, uncontrollable tears (especially during phone calls), and long periods of time I used to spent in the washroom (probably crying).
All I wanted to do was give up, leave the hostel, go back home and stay there forever. I didn’t care if I had or didn’t have a career, I didn’t care about my dreams, I just wanted to be home.
Today, I don’t recognize that girl.
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So hey little brother, this will pass. One day, when you look back and think about how difficult life was – you wont remember the difficulty. Then you will smile – thinking how far you have reached from there.